





K. So I met Allison officially when she was in a production of Godspell multiple years ago that I was designing costumes for. She was fun to be around and had a great sense of style (oh how I wish I could dress myself with her pizzaz). I liked her. That's pretty much it. I had several moments of "Wow I wish she was going to Mizzou and not to that school that shall not be named in Springfield so that we could be friends." But, alas, that's where she was, and that's where she stayed. There she met Alan.
Maybe the reason I cried so much with Allison and Alan is that they remind me so much of Brian and I. Their marriage has a purpose and a calling. In our nearly two years of marriage Brian has yet to raise his voice with me or get angry at me. Yet I can't count the times I have been frustrated or yelled at him for some dumb reason. Through my short temper tantrums (don't worry, I haven't had one for several months!) Brian is always calm and kind and gentle, even as I act like a brat. My "fits" don't last very long as I finally look over at Brian and see in his eyes how deeply he loves me and how much my anger hurts him--if you saw him you couldn't help it, your heart just melts.
Although I highly doubt Allison is subject to temper tantrums like me! So don't get any bad ideas about her!
Another story. (Now I'm rambling.) This one shows that Allison really is a better woman than I. During Alan's toast he mentioned how it blessed him so much that though when he met Allison she had next to no interest in baseball, let alone Alan's beloved St. Louis Cardinals, she worked hard to become a fan of them and even took up reading the baseball stats from the paper to talk about them with people (although Alan claims she didn't know what half of the stats actually meant but he loved that she was trying!). Alan says that shows what an amazing woman she was and how it meant so much to him that she was trying to take an interest in what was important to him. This part of his toast reminded me of a fateful night when Brian and I were sharing a meal at Country Kitchen after one of our pre-marital counseling sessions. We had a list of a few "homework questions" to discuss. One of which was, "If I could do anything different to bless you, what would it be?" I asked the question of Brian, expecting his reply to be, "Absolutely nothing, you're perfect just as you are," which was his usual response to everything. (Told you he was amazing!) That night, however, his response went something like this, "Mallory, I've been thinking a lot about that question and I don't want you to feel hurt by this in any way whatsoever. You know that I love sports--I follow them all on ESPN.com: golf, tennis, hockey, basketball, football--you name it I follow it. But to be honest I would like to watch at least one on TV from time to time. The problem is that I don't want to be one of those husbands that watch games without his wife while she scurries around the house doing things. I love you and I want you to be by my side always. Even when I'm watching a sport. So, Mallory, what would really bless me is if you picked one of those sports to take interest in and watch it with me from time to time." My response? I cried. Isn't it amazing he still loved me enough to marry me? Boy am I blessed.
So enough rambling. Here are a few of my favorites from the Hughes' wedding, FINALLY. (And check out Alan's groom's cake!)